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Dec. 9th, 2009

Well, in trying to talk to James about how if I {we} have kids I would prefer them to be home-schooled, he has managed to completely insult me, made me cry and accused me of arguing with him. I was trying to explain it from my own perspective. He KNOWS how miserable my school years were for me. He knows about the incident with the slugs and how I was called a bitch by one of my peers in the 2nd or 3rd grade for glancing in his direction. In the 6th I was called a cow by Tanisha Dijonee when I was just sitting in the corner reading.

I was mocked at every turn, and the education wasn't much better. Carrie said today, I was the sort of child that teachers loved. So anxiety ridden I complied with all the rules, never caused any trouble, and then just as promptly fell through the cracks because no one was watching, let alone cared in the first place.

I was irreversibly damaged by that system and don't want any of my brood to have to deal with anything like it, and know that they cannot if they have the same problems I do. And I sincerely pray that they do not.

Other than that disturbing part, I think today was an ok day.


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Dec. 10th, 2009 06:38 pm (UTC)
My sister and I were both homeschooled from 3rd to 8th grade. It was a good and bad thing. For me, I think it was mostly bad, and I think my parents came to agree with me -- my dad admitted later on that the main reason for the homeschooling was because of my sister, who has always been extremely quiet and shy.

Advantages: the kids will learn much faster and better, be more disciplined, and have more free time (school days only need to be about 4-6 hours, depending on grade). Obviously, as you pointed out, they won't have to experience the cruelty of other kids.

Disadvantages: Going to high school afterward was a huge shock. I had no idea how to interact with people, didn't know how to do group work, got picked on all the time because I was so weird, etc. If I had stayed homeschooled all the way until college, the transition would have been even more shocking and I might not have been able to take it. In my case I think these disadvantages outweighed the advantages, since I have trouble with these issues to this day. On the other hand, if I hadn't been homeschooled, maybe I wouldn't be at Princeton now, so who knows.

But, it's really down to the personality of the kid, and how much time and effort you the parent are willing to put into educating them. The one thing I'd recommend is to make sure they have lots of extracurricular activities so that they learn to interact with people other than family members from a young age.

There's a lot more to say here, so if you ever want to talk more about homeschooling, just let me know.
Dec. 18th, 2009 10:06 am (UTC)
Re: Homeschooling
The thing is, I'd be more than happy to send them off to school if I knew that they could handle it like a regular kid. My issues lie in the fact that I know all the disorders in my family are inherited, and it makes for a very difficult time being in almost any sort of a social setting, with school having been the grade A worst.

And, assuming that I did feel the need to home school, I would most definitely make sure that they had plenty of activities to do involving interactions with other people, but that was the idea that seemed to have upset James the most.

He's got lots of ideas that when he gets latched on to, no matter how stupid they sound, that you just can't talk to him until he gets over it.
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